Monday, April 14, 2008

People Poll Question of the Day

Monday, April 14, 2008

You meet someone and after a couple of weeks of an occasional happy hour and daily telephone conversations/text messages, you two seem to really be hitting it off. It's at the point that you're kinda digging them and they seem to be and say they are digging you.

The inevitable sex conversation comes up. You two basically concede that the first chance you two are alone, you're getting the business. And just to be clear, you really, REALLY want the business from this person.

After about a week though, this person drops quite the bombshell. You find out that not only is this person not single, but they have been in a not-so-committed relationship of two years with someone they (against their better judgment) planned to marry and have kids with one day.

Admittedly stunned and somewhat staggered by their honesty, you begin an inquisition. Through a line of questioning you find that this former U.S. solider admits to having cheated in the past, but that despite (or maybe in spite of) those transgressions, their relationship with the significant other is doing relatively well. When asked how many times in the past they've transgressed, you find out they are relatively new to "the game" and have been in a similar predicament twice.

Given that information would you:
  • A - Totally cut the person off and end any chance of anything happening between you two.

  • B - Proceed cautiously and refuse to get emotionally involved.

  • C - Lil Kim that ass by saying fuck it and getting yours!
At this point, I'm leaning toward option C. What say you?


MP said...

(sigh)... I am not the person that I wish I was yet... if I was single I would go with C. While I wouldn't cheat I am not entirely sure that I would reject a stray. I know I wouldn't pursue on either but... I guess I'm a bad person! I like it!

Cocoa Rican said...

It's simple...if I was single (and you know what my type of single is....hookah city!) I would definitely go with "C". Get mine and got to steppin'....but knowing you and how long you've told us you've waited, it seems dumb to give it to an admitted shared piece of trade... upgrade pa...get yourself a piece with less fuckin' baggage...this one just has too much shit with him.

Darius T. Williams said...

totally option A - all day long!

La said...

I wish I could say C...

But karma never forgets even what we don't reveal.

That Dude Right There said...

Why continue to help someone cheat and make yourself someone else's plaything?

Option A is the best option IN MY OPINION.

YoungBlack&DL said...

Well, Mr. Jones I don't think It will be a surprise to you, what option I choose, but I will go through the process, by explaining.

I have never cheated, but I have participated in someone else's cheating.

As a man on the downlow, myself, I can tell you this is your classic case of one. He says that he is a former U.S. soldier, which means that most of his friends are and probably even some family, are or were in the army. They are use to that "Don't ask, don't tell" mentality. I'm sure that they don't know he gets down with men...Can you handle that?
I'm almost sure, that the female...and I assume it's a female, since he plans on marrying and having kids with...doesn't know that he has cheated, let alone with a man. He's trying to make you feel that its cool.

I don't exactly see this relationship going anywhere, that you will want a relationship to go.

I don't see a huge difference between B or C. I mean proceed cautiously to what exactly?...a Relationship? or a friends with benefits type of deal or what?

Either way I think its going to be a No, No! for YOU! Me it would be cool, but not for You.

This brings us to my readers pick, you guessed it Option C. I say get yours and then some, and leave it at that. Guys new to the game can be so much fun, especially if they are open minded! Showing them some stuff, they have never done or experienced, can be so exciting even for you. Show that them what exactly they will be missing with the person they are planning on marrying. However those guys who are new to the game, and what to get down to "business", like they think you are a girl, and just think about getting theirs, is no fun.
But to be honest, he's probably lying about being new to the game too.

What it all comes down to, is what you can handle. Only you, Mr. Jones, know what you can handle and not handle. Either way, I hope you get some that is so good, that it make you forget, that you haven't had any geat "BUSINESS" stuff since 2006!

Mr. Jones said...

Thanks all for your commentary.

Infamous said...

As easy as this should be, because I'm all about being selfish, I'll go with A. As much fun as C could be I don't think you are the type of person to hurt someone else for personal gain.

Mr. Jones said...

Maybe I'm just unscrupulous, but I see no problem with having sex in this situation.

In fact, say what you will about me, but I did. And it was great. And I'm happy the streak is over.

So, all you prudes can turn your noses up just a little more on Friday.

YoungBlack&DL said...

Hip Hip Horay for Mr. Jones. I knew you could do it. I hope it was great. I said Option C, in the first place, you knowI'm not a prude. No cobwebs around my johnson.

No more of those bludder cookies for you. You got a real orgasm. You did have one, not just a nut, right?

life said...

A, if they are willing to creep on the person they've been with for 2 years. They don't mean you nor that person any good. Who knows how else they are messin' with.

That Dude Right There said...

"So, all you prudes can turn your noses up just a little more on Friday."

1. I wouldn't say that I am a prude, but I will say that I am a person who gives respect to relationships.

2. Yeah,you got a nut out of it, but you still don't have what you really want. And what you have expressed you really want is someone to call your own.

3. And I may be mistaken, but didn't someone cheat on you? How did you feel about that?

4. Someone mentioned earlier that karma never forgets. She wasn't lying.

Mr. Jones said...


1 - He was going to do it anyway. And besides, I'm more than certain there are things you'd be more than willing to do that I wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole.

2 - True, but in lieu of that, I gladly accept great sex.

3 - You are mistaken.

4 - Enough with the judgmental tone already. Karma won't forget you cussing that guy out at the airport or anything else you've done in life that people didn't think you should be doing.

Andre J. Allen II said...

i would have picked A. kudos for the streak being ova. Regardless he still was in a relationship and thats a no-no in my book. you live and u learn so now u move on.

Mr. Jones said...

you live and u learn so now u move on.

Exactly what is it that I learned and am moving on from?

Anonymous said...

I also think B & C are similar, except that B suggests an ongoing thing while C suggests a one-time thing.

Since you've already "threaded your needle" the real question is what are you gonna do when he wants another session?

(I'd choose B, but almost always, someone catches feelings over time)

YoungBlack&DL said...

It may not be any consolation prize, to hear it from me, but I'm still happy for you!

Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself. None of us are perfect, and I'm not positve, but I sure none of you live in bullet proof glass houses, so maybe you should set the stones down.

At the end of the day, if you hadn't done it, he would have found someone else. It wasn't you who had made a commitment to anyone. It was him, so you shouldn't have a thing to feel bad about.

Bullet Proof Soul said...

If you can handle getting sloppy seconds, never being a significant, always being a secret in the closet, and dealing with the emotional turmoil then:

C) Lil Kim that ass, fuck it and get yours!! I'm not even mad at you.

But personally, I don't think there is really anything wrong with "B" because he could come to his senses and not marry the girl. You can still get the sex and a possible relationship. Hell women do "B" all the time. And how do we know that his significant isn't a lesbian and the marriage is a cover up for both? Women know when their men cheat and she doesn't seem to care.

Just my two pennies.

Anonymous said...

Im gonna say a mixture of a,b, and c. Start with B, its always best to use caution.Then go with C, because Lil Kim is a freaky ho of a genius. Then A. it would provide and nice boomerang of an effect that would surely stun them.

That Dude Right There said...

Now Warren if you didn't want other peoples' opinions, you should not have blogged about it. Understand that everyone isn't going to agree with you. No need to attack someone on a blog when you have their phone number.

But instead of agreeing with everything that you say instead of giving you my honest opinion is what you want, then so be it.

yet another black guy said...


option a, always. wrong is wrong, regardless of who does it or what excuses they use.

Mr. Jones said...

Sean - I'd do it again. LOL.

YB&DL - Thanks for the comment and the love.

TDRT - I didn't attack you, boo. I really apologize if it came across that way. That's the issue with text tho. Things get lost in translation.

I def. respect and welcome your opinion. I've never been into having people around me who simply say what they think will make me happy or keep me quiet.

The only thing I refuse to be put up with is being judged. And I sensed a little bit of judgment in there.

Anonymous said...

Am I lost or is this just an all male poll???

If my 2 cents in the matter won't get cut, i would say A because karma is a bitch and it will bite your ass if you act a fool enough.

Kyon Saucier said...

Run from that man as if he is a jable!

Aaron said...

knowing my personality I would BLOW HIS SPOT UP!!

There is no excuse to mistreat people. If you are not happy in a relationship you need to leave.

Keeping that in mind...KARMA is a bitch with a sense of humor.

Stay far away from the messary that is DL men.

Anonymous said...

Be careful of the free milk samples- the cow is not for sale.

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