Monday, June 4, 2007

I'm in need of advice.

Monday, June 4, 2007
I’m intrigued by the ex- of a former acquaintance/co-worker and, honestly, I don’t know how to handle this situation. On one hand, I know someone isn’t going to let go of their past until they’re really ready to. I’m conscious of the fact that what I say, no matter how fair, accurate and obvious it may be, could (and probably will) be misconstrued and misinterpreted and viewed as slander or libel. How do you rescue someone from an circumstance that doesn’t look good from the outside looking in? How do you let someone know they deserve to be respected, honored and appreciated and not toyed with or mocked? How do you let someone know that should be bored with sophomoric mind tricks and other miscellaneous bullshit over a year after the initial breakup? How do you let someone know that it’s ok to let go of someone who really doesn’t seem to want to be held on to in the first place? How do you let someone know that they deserve better and that there’s more to life than waiting for reconciliation that probably shouldn’t happen in the first place?

Right now, I’m comfortable with being a listener, offering advice when it’s solicited, and, hopefully becoming a friend. I don’t mind any of that, in fact, I like it. Right now, I’m playing the cut. If there’s one thing life has taught me it to never timidly enter a course of action.


Anonymous said...

u really cant save somebpdy who dont want 2 be saved. when love is involved some people's eyes r wide shut. sounds like this is the case. i think ur doing the right thing by waiting it out. working toward becoming friends is a goo dthing.

yet another black guy said...

we all know a fool when we see one, but not when we are one. that individual is going to have to come to terms with the nature of their relationship at their own pace. forcing the issue isn't always the best option.

be a friend, but be a bit more firm. try saying, "i feel you, but have you told him/her all this as well", or "look, i'm here for you, but you have to ask yourself what are you getting out of this situation".

be forewarned: things might get waaaay more complicated before they get simpler.

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