Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Mary, YOU are the reason I hate Facebook now.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009
This is a rant about Facebook.

I’m fairly certain I’ve mentioned this here previously but I’m just not that into Facebook anymore. It’s not that I have anything against social networking. I don’t. In fact, Twitter is my shit! It’s just that I’ve been on Facebook for about six years now and the luster is gone. Besides, it’s just too much information to manage about people. I honestly don’t need to know someone’s politics, education, religion, etc. just to shoot the shit with them. But I digress.

Anywho…I’m ranting today with a VERY specific purpose. This chick that I haven’t seen or spoken to IN OVER 10 YEARS requested me as a Facebook friend several weeks ago. We went to the same school and even took a couple of the same classes together, but we certainly weren’t friends by any definition. Attached to her request was this message:

“Yo, [insert my government]. What’s good my n*gga? Remember I used to call you [insert dumbass nickname here]? Holla back.”

As you can imagine, she wasn’t accepted. This very off-putting message aside, I wouldn’t have accepted her anyway because I don’t see the point of adding people who aren’t actually in my life. I let the initial request sit there for a week or so, then declined it. About a week later she sent a second request. I knew right away she wasn’t going to be added, but I smartened up and decided to just let that one sit there for a bit so she would have no other recourse whatsoever. I was sure that was the end of it.

I’m walking to work this morning and got an email on my Pre from Facebook. It’s the same chick. She says:

“What up, [insert my government]. You acting brand new now, n*gga? Still waiting on that Facebook confirmation.”

Brand new? Hoe, we went to middle school together. MIDDLE SCHOOL. I'ma grown ass man now, haven't seen you in years and I'm acting brand new???? I was incensed at that point. How dare you try to chastise me about choosing not to accept your friendship! After 10+ years of not even knowing (or caring) if you’re you alive you wanna come back and give me Scarlett Fever for not accepting you? I don’t play those games. Ya’ll know I upped the anti on that hoe:

“Mary, I appreciate your zeal but frankly I’m not interested in having access into your life and vice-versa. It’s been years and though I hope and your four kids (a subtle dig, but at only 25 y/o that’s a lil tidbit she should’ve left off her page) are well, I’m just not in the practice of keeping tabs on everyone via the internet.”

Now, some of you will undoubtedly say, “It’s not that serious. Just add her and move on.” Well, it is that serious to me. I’m sick and tired of the internet affording people who I barely even know the opportunity to feel uber-entitled to having access into my life. I don’t need to befriend everyone I’ve ever met at a party or who knows of me through someone else who merely knows of me. We hadn’t seen each other in over a decade and I was cool keeping it that way.

As for Mary, she hasn’t responded yet. If she does, then I’ll respond accordingly.


Turn me up a lil said...

I hate when people for deep in my past add me as a friend. I just don;t care about anyone I haven't spoken to in more than 2 years or longer.

YBandDL Bad PYT In the Closet at Hearbreak Hotel said...

Okay Mr. Jones, this is going to be my last comment of the night, because I have commented enough on your blog for the evening.

Now Mr. Jones everyone who knows me online and offline, knows how I feel personally towards Social networks, and if you don't let me inform you, I can't stand them, with a passion.

However I am very confused by this post. Now isn't the purpose of facebook to reconnect with people, from not only College life, high school, and other places, from your past? I understand your point of view. You really didn't care for her in middle school, and although of supportively you don't care for her now. What confuses me in this whole situation is your overall reason. That you don't want to friend her, because you haven't talked to her in 10 years and you aren't currently friends with her, so why should you friend her on faceboook....



Hmmm Okay...

Isn't that what facebook is for?

I mean isn't the whole purpose, to reconnect with long friends and acquaintances?

I mean can you really fault her for doing what the main purpose of the site was for, regardless if it was 10 years ago?

I mean I don't think the purpose of facebook, was to stay exclusively in touch with the people already in your life, buddy!

Kyon Saucier said...

I agree with Mr Jones totally on this one.

Mr. Jones said...

Turn Me Up - I feel your pain!!! I feel it!! LOL.

YBDL - Im convinced you side against me constantly just for sport. LOL.

My gripe wasnt her trying to reconnect. It was the follow up. I denied her once, she came back and didnt get a response. Then, she followed up with a message slightly chastising me for taking to long to accept her. That's a no go. She shouldnt taken her cue the first time and bounced. I dont like that Facebook and other websites maker people feel so goddamn entitled. That's really it.

Kyon - Hey man! How are ya??

Reese said...

hard on these hoes eh?

Anonymous said...

You're well within your right to decline her request. What is it about twitter that you like so much? I think it's facebook on crack-cocaine.

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